Sled dog (Chiens de traineaux) in Québec
Protective hair style n°2 : flat box braids
The picture was taken after 2 weeks holiday, it looked neater when it was freshly done.
Natural hair style n°1
P. S. : sorry for the bad angle haha
Falling down before getting back up…
Today, I feel like a failure.
I feel ugly and weak …
Comparing myself to my friends and realising that we didn’t have the same experience of life. And still have a different experience of life…
Feeling like a mess at 28, thinking of all the things I thought I would have figured out by then and I still don’t…
Feeling like that I don’t have control over my life…
Felling helpless..
Feeling that no matter how I try, the result is the same…
Feeling of being alone among a group of people…
I feel like I love myself and who I am but this world doesn’t love me as I am…
Feeling that I have to change who I am to have a normal life….
Feeling different…
Feeling like crying and quitting everything..
Leave everything behind and leave…
Far from everything, from the insecurities, from the pression and the stress..
Feeling that my profound self is asleep most of the days….
And when it comes back to life, it screams ‘GET OUT OF THIS LIFE THAT TRAPS YOU….’
Get out and free yourself…
From this life of slavery….
And a night passes and everything goes back to normal …
I fit in , I try harder to fit in this world …
Until the next time that I lose my mind…….
……..
I’ll probably wake up tomorrow and start this life again, convincing myself that if I try hard enough, it’ll change…
That I’ll feel good and fulfilled …..
Believing that lie that I tell myself…
Which allows me to go through this life until the next day, the next month, the next year…
Until I lose my mind again….
Woman fearless’s conference
Hello everyone today I am coming to you as I am resting from my great day listening to different great women speak at the One Woman Fearless Summit in Montreal.
I registered for this summit back in February. I remember being at Starbucks and going through events because I was very bored. I’m glad I did.
First of all, being surrounded women feels empowering to me, we all had different background and different lives but here and now we were all here for the same purpose, supporting and learning from each other.
‘One woman’ is an organisation working with different organisations in different countries to help empower girls and women through education and entrepreneurship . Sharla Brown, the founder of the organisation, organises several trips during the year bringing women for working on their different project.
During the summit, a panel of women got on the stage one after the other to share their stories and how they succeeded after going through struggles that many women experience. Many of them are now life coach helping others to succeed. I was actually impressed by seeing the percentage of women in the public that had their own businesses and had children at the same time.
We also had the opportunity to listen a speech from Mpumi Nubiva.
Let me tell you about this woman, she is only 25 years old but I have sooo much to learn from her. She is beautiful, confident, strong and has a great positive energy.
She was born in South Africa and , at age nine, she lost her mother to HIV/Aids, leaving her orphaned like a lot of of other children in South Africa. Despite the trauma, she managed to do well at school and kept on sharing the story of her mother dying of AIDS even though it was a taboo subject at the time. After secondary school, she had the great opportunity to be accepted in the school of Oprah.
The main message that she addressed to us was ‘Things don’t happen to you, Things happen for you’ and she explained to us how the tragic death of her mother defined the course of her life. She is now dedicating part of her life to bring awareness about AIDS in South Africa and teach back to women/girls what she has learned from Oprah’s school and through her experience.
I linked the Youtube videos of One Woman Fearless. Montreal videos are probably not yet available but you can watch other great speechs from the other cities.
One Woman Fearless Summit Youtube channels
Sorry for the blurriness of the pictures!
Confidence…..
Self confidence is a very prized mindset that everybody wants to have. To be confortable with who you are and how you are in every circumstance and any situations. What people often don’t realise is that confidence is not something set in stone that you have or don’t have. I used to think that my confidence was getting better for example I was able to speak a little more and then when I had to speak in public, all this confidence disappear and I found myself disappointed that this confidence disappeared. Recently I learned 3 key things :
- Confidence depends on the situation : you may be very confident for standing up for yourself but not confident at all when it comes to speaking in front of a group for example.
- Confidence is a skill : when you gain confidence at something, keep cultivating this confidence otherwise you will lose it.
- The only confidence that is not situational is core confidence : this confidence allows you to confront most of the situations with the feeling that no matter what happens, you will be able to handle it. I watched a video of Matthew Hussey, a dating/love expert the other day and he was talking about the different levels of confidence. One day, he found himself being jobless after the cancelation of a show in which he invested a whole year knowing that only one episode of the show ended up being aired. That would have been devastating, I know I would have felt horrible. Feeling sad and devastated, he still decided to go to the theaters to watch Iron Man. In the ending of the movie Iron Man, Tony Stark simply stated that that even without his toys, his armor or his house, he was still Iron Man. In his situation, Matthew reminded himself that this particular show didn’t make him, he was the show and even without it, he still had the skills and the knowledge that were valuable. Therefore, he could actually get a fresh start and build everything back again because he had confidence in who he was.
In most articles about gaining confidence, they tell you to think of all the things you have done, all the things that makes you worthy, all the people that loves you. My point is : What if you didn’t acheive anything and nobody really cares about you? Does that mean that you shouldn’t have any confidence in yourself? No. Your past may define who you are now but what you are doing determines who you will be. Believe that you have the potential and the ability to do what you desire. It usually starts small but gradually, you will build the confidence to go further and further.
So how you can cultivate confidence (the tips I try to apply every day) ,
- Remind yourself everyday that no matter what happens today you can handle it ( it does not necessarily mean that you will be great at everything , but at least don’t let yourself be defeated)
- Have faith ( whether it is in God, love , destiny, the universe or just yourself) , just trust that everything will be alright (at some point).
- When you feel down and fell like giving up, or when you lose confidence, don’t beat yourself up. Accept the discomfort, the disappointment or the shame but pick yourself back up and go on with your life. Don’t let the negative self talk keep you down.
- Remind yourself that mistakes and failures are human. Those mistakes don’t change your value as a human being. You are valuable by being not by doing.
Living alone means sometimes that you have to rely on yourself for a lot of thing, confidence is necessary to get you though life challenges.
Thank you for reading this post, let me know what are your tips to build your confidence.
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